Today is my grandma's 86th birthday!!!!!
I decided for her birthday I would write a blog dedicated to her.
|Look at that lush|
She is a very strong independent woman who taught me that if you are in a relationship that isn't working, no matter what, you can get out.
You don't have to stay with someone because you feel it is the right thing to do or because you are afraid of what you are going to do if you are on your own. It took me a while to realise this but now that I do I wish more women would.
This is her story, it's long, but she deserves a long story:
She left the theater and started working at the Post Office for a while. After the Post Office she worked at Norden Bombsite until it closed when the Japanese surrendered.
Joe came back about 1945 and they married in 1946.
She worked at Emerson Radio as a book keeper and while being married to Joe she had 6 children, Melody Michael John Robert Kerry(my mom) and Anthony, and they lived in a two bedroom apartment.
Sadly Joe was an alcoholic and had some issues which caused a bad home life. The family had hardly any money for those times and lived off of food stamps and pinching pennies. They kids helped take care of each other and just helped out where they could. Grandma worked nights PT at SH Kress and was there for about 6 years until someone she worked with got her a full time job at Dry Dock Savings Bank.
|R to L: Tony, John, Robert, Grandma|
|R to L: Michael, Kerry, Grandma, Melody, Tony|
Grandma finally had had enough at home and got the strength to kick Joe out. She was now a single woman with 6 children (the oldest were in their teens) living alone in New York and the family survived.
About 1967 while working at the bank grandma met Jim. He was married and worked part time at the bank and his brother worked with my grandmother. They would go out to lunch as a group often and just started to get to know each other better. Jim divorced his wife and my grandmother, after being separated for years, finally filed for divorce from Joe. They started seriously seeing each other and Jim of course met the kids and my mom thought he was just a great.
Jim was over 6 feet tall, great laugh, about 10 years older than my grandmother, and was one of the warmest people you would ever met.
I asked my grandmother what made her fall for Jim she replied with
"He was kind, considerate, thoughtful, and love the kids." He loved my mom because the first time he called the house she answered the phone and just heard this deep deep voice and yelled to grandma that John Wayne was on the phone.
Jim had three adult sons and decided to move grandma to New Jersey so that they could be closer. This caused issues because the three youngest still lived at home and were in middle school and high school and didn't want to leave their friends. Jim found my grandma an apartment for her and the kids to live in while he lived in his house with his kids.
This blew my mind.
They were together for 10 years....10 years! and didn't live together. Crazy.
Jim treated my grandmother like gold, plain and simple. He wanted to give her the world and just to make her happy. He asked her once what she wanted and she replied with marry him, a diamond ring, a house, a fireplace, live in Florida, and a fur coat.
He gave her all of those things and more.
|G and Jim|
They would come down to Sarasota and vacation from time to time and with him getting older and her moving from job to job they decided it was time to move. They came down in 1976, met with a realtor and the next day purchased the house I grew up in. They moved down here with my Uncle Tony, he was in his senior year of high school, and just started their lives together. They finally got married and it was that love that just everyone knew was right.
I wish they had had more time together but they had their love and not a day goes by that I don't think that he is with her.
My mom and I ended up staying with my grandmother and I grew up with two moms. Grandma never let me feel unloved, she helped my mom raise me and I am so grateful for it. I am one of those few people who are blessed enough to have grown up with their grandparent 24/7.
|Me and G when I was 16 ?|
|G at her 85th Birthday party last year|
Today is your birthday Female Ruth Teresa Hart Daw Fennelly and I love you more than you could ever imagine.